In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “I Can’t Stay Mad at You.”
My assignment today is to write a post from a prompt. The question is – “Do you hold grudges or do you believe in forgive and forget?” I have to say that I used to hold grudges in the past but found that is not always the best way to handle things.
When I was younger and someone made me angry or hurt me I would hold a grudge against them. I would not hang out with them or talk to them for a long period of time. I had an “I’ll show you!” type of attitude. Then eventually I may come around and forgive and forget. If a store or a restaurant had rude employees or were not helpful, my husband and I would ban them and not go there again. We were like hey, if they don’t want our money fine we will go elsewhere.
Looking back at some of these decisions it seems like the only people hurt by this were us! All the time spent on holding a grudge could have been spent enjoying things we may have missed out on. Part of my blog is about living in a more positive way and not having to be bogged down with negativity. So from this point on, I believe the forgive and forget method would probably be more beneficial than spending negative energy in maintaining a grudge.
I also think as we get older and wiser that the grudge is just too much effort and work and sometimes forgiving and forgetting (even when we are right) is better. There are situations where taking the first step in resolving an argument or being the “bigger” person pays off and builds better and stronger relationships. Now if I am in the same situation over and over and the only one forgiving and forgetting then just maybe….the holding the grudge might find its way back into my life 🙂 What are your thoughts?